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When I first got to college, I thought that I had to do everything. Study extremely hard, join every club, and say yes to every plan because that’s what people mean when they say “work hard, play hard,” right? It sounded like it was the only right way to have the “college experience.” But after trying to keep up with this mindset for the past few semesters, I realized something: it’s exhausting.

I started to notice how much I actually liked the slower and somewhat mundane parts of the day, like walking back from class with music on, studying in the library or in the residence hall by myself, or even just a calm hang-out talking with a friend late at night. These moments aren’t anything crazy, but they’ve taught me more about myself than any busy schedule ever could.

There were times when I felt sad about not having plans or hanging out with people. I’d scroll through social media and see people at events or internships, and I’d start to question if I was missing out. But over time, I realized that rest and “doing nothing” isn’t something to feel bad about. Taking time for myself has become just as important as anything else I do.

Letting go of the “work hard, play hard” mindset has helped me find balance. I still work hard and care about what I do, but I don’t push myself to the point of burnout. I still have fun, but it doesn’t have to be in the same ways as others. I’ve learned that peace doesn’t mean I am missing out; it just means that I am being present.

College does move fast and there’s always something happening, something due, or somewhere to be. But slowing down has made me feel like myself and truly appreciate the life I live, even if it might have moments of boring.

I don’t need to have a packed schedule to feel accomplished anymore. I feel grateful that I get to experience all of it - not just the big, exciting parts, but the small, ordinary ones too. Those are the moments that make college feel special.